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Why picking the right partner is a challenge

In a day and age where people care less and less about feelings, either getting married or getting into a relationship at all, the majority of the young population decided to focus on themselves first.

We all heard the stories from our parents, grandparents, or other family members about how marriage and having children used to be the ultimate goal in life. Or how people gave up their dreams and got into relations or married right after they had children.

The new generation is different, though. Young people actually fight and stand for what they want in life and have their priorities straight and the ones who stay focused on what the right path for them is, are truly unstoppable. In brief, they are finding their voice and are not afraid to show it.

If you think about it, from a more spiritual, if you will, perspective, every family has some sort of patterns that keep getting repeated by the generations to come. Unless they are acknowledged and broken, nothing will change.

What I am trying to say is that in the relationships between romantic partners and family members in general, it’s possible that you may notice that certain things keep being repeated unless someone decided to change the course of life. Here it’s mostly about the toxic behavior of parents and how it affects children while growing up.

Choosing the right partner is more than just being with someone who is rich to buy you anything and everything you want. More than just going on vacations, or clubs, or doing romantic stuff together. It’s about communication, shared moral values, where you see yourselves in the future, what you want to achieve in life, beliefs, education and how you’ll raise your future children.

Meaning, that if you think you can have children with someone lazy who prefers to watch TV all day and give orders around the house and who spends all money on alcohol, or who doesn’t care about your or your children’s feelings, then forget about it.

In order to find the one, you need to understand that this is a hell long journey, which starts with knowing yourself, accepting yourself, and loving yourself. The moment you do this, as cliché as it sounds, everything will fall into place.

You can’t expect someone to love you or you to love someone if you don’t love yourself first. Let’s put it this way: how can you give love to someone if you don’t give that love that you expect and know deserve, to yourself in the first place?

Even if you start going out with someone and after some time decide to get serious, like marriage serious, you need to discuss how you will raise your children, finance, and moral values. Having children is no joke and should be always taken seriously. It’s about bringing another life into this world and protecting and raising it.

Having a healthy relationship implies communication, support, and investing time. You can’t be the only one who puts in the effort. A relationship is a two-way street, therefore there should be equality and mutual understanding.

Anger management is the deal-breaker. Like if someone cannot control their anger and starts getting violent either verbally or physically, show them the door. This is a major red flag and should not be ignored due to the fact that it can lead to other ugly things, and I guess we all know what I’m talking about. I just don’t want to get into that right now.

If I were to make a list of things to keep in mind when it comes to choosing a partner those would definitely be: love yourself, be aware of your patterns and what lessons you have yet to learn, and decide what you want in life, be aware of your moral values, notice your family behavior and under no circumstances, settle for less.

This is a large topic and depends on how everyone views it. It could take longer to write about everything.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post as much as I did writing it. Don’t forget to leave a like and a comment. Thank you for giving your time. Until the next one. Stay healthy! Bye!

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