Through the course of life we get to experience both good and bad situations, it’s inevitable. After all, you don’t know what happiness really is unless you have come to know pain.
Now, I’m not going to lie. This is actually one of my favourite topics to write about. I could sit here for hours just thinking and searching about the meaning or different meanings of life in general.
As we grow up, we realize how little we actually know and how much we have left to discover that there’s not enough time to do it. Well, if we’re being realistic, time is infinite, like I can’t stress this enough. There will always be time, it’s just us who are temporary and have to make the best of if to maximize it. Back to the main topic now.
Pain cannot be avoided but suffering can. What I mean by that is that you can allow yourself to feel the pain and go through it but if you decide to stay in that dark place more than it is necessary than the suffering you’ll be going through is your choice and no one else’s.
Although, it’s fair to say that sometimes we might need more time to process what is really happening to us and the world around us, depending on the circumstances and the gravity of the situation.
Happiness is an inside job. Yep, that’s so real and sometimes it can take us ages to realize this. You are responsible for your own happiness and yours alone. You are not responsible for no one else’s happiness, not even your family or friends or close people to you. Yes, you can help them when they are in need but the same way you have the right to choose if you want to make a change about you and be happy with your life, they have the same right.
The moment your happines depends on someone else you are doomed, if I am being honest. Even when it comes to relationships in general, no matter their type or nature, you cannot depend on someone else to feel joyful. You have to find peace light inside yourself, what makes you tick, what makes you “you”. Once you discover that, your loved ones will just add up to your happiness.
As I said before, we are temporary, our time is limited. Even though we might live at the same time with other people, our time spans are so different. Everyone’s destined for something else. We might be there for one another when we need help but we are temporary in their lives too. I don’t know how much sense this actually makes but the main idea is you are the only constant in your life, yourself only.
You have to learn how to deal with your own thoughts, your kind, learn your likes, dislikes, what irks you and how you cop in a situation of high gravity because at the end of the day, when you out your head on that pillow before going to bed, no matter who is besides you, you are left on your own with your thoughts and no one will be there to help you.
This is a hard process and take time, you have to be patient with yourself. Your family might not realize what is going on with you but out of experience I can say that there will come a time when you have to distance yourself to figure yourself out. Expecially if the majority of your life you needed approval before doing something or normal things every kid, teenager or yould adult would do. Will your parents get mad? Oh, they will, but they have to understand that it’s your time now. If they want you to fly high, they need to understand you need to discover yourself first.
Oop this was a long post. Gonna end it here, although, I might come back to it and write again in the future. Thank you for reading and see you on the next one. Bye!